So my boyfriends secretary at work, beyond inapproperate with my boyfriend. When Mike was going this his divorce she told him about all the affairs that she’s had wiu married men. At happy hours she kept trying to get him wasted and then would try to convice him to let her take him home – unsucessfully of course. When Mike and I started to date she would call Mike “just to say hi” at night when I was wih him. Then, when we had officially been dating for like 6 months, she pulled him by his belt at work. He told her to knock it off and she did, for a while. Then he inapproperateness started up again, she told him that she caught chlamitia from her married boyfriend and asked him if he had caught anything before. Then she started to insist that he let her drive him during team outings (which he did only if other people were in the car too). Now, her damn birthday comes about and she invites a bunch of office people to go out with her, including both of us. We has existing plans that weekend to be in NJ, clearly we couldn’t do both. Mike explains this to her, but she still lays it on thick how much she wants him to be there. We don’t go, of course, sorry chickie but my best friend and his family will always trump hanging out with her. Then she take a picture of mike and puts it on her facebook wall. Ok, weird, why? Just him in his cubical at work. Mike sees this, said it’s weird too and asks her nicely to take it down because it makes him feel uncomfortable. Her response – doesn’t talk to him for the better par of two weeks and counting, is blaintly rude to me at work for no reason and she keeps his picture up online to this day. I get it, she like my boyfriend and I’m sure is jealious that despite her best efforts he never wanted her and she couldn’t break us up. I believe that my invite to her bday was one of those things “… keep your enimenys closer…” but seriously, why the f’ing drama? This chick is 30 years old, we all work together and we have mutural friends. Sorry that she can’t handle the rejection but, I don’t know, I just don’t get it. And I think that’s what’s bugging me the most, I want to like hear what she is thinking. Is that weird? That this is bugging me? She is a nobody to me and I could care less if she lived or died but maybe it’s the fact that she’s not only being rude and unprofessional to me but also to mike is the reason the situation is bothering me? Now I have no actual reason to say anything to her. Mike requested off of his team partly for just wanting a change and partly to get away from her. Should I confront her or just let it be? What about when were in social situations with mutual friends? I don’t want to make it aquward for anyone else, ya know? I’m at a loss. I don’t like her nor have respect for her, for obvious reasons, but I dot need her f’ing drama in my life either. This is kind of random and unexpected and also a bit concerned at what psycho secretary also has up her sleeves…
Why is this bothering me so much?
28 Thursday Jan 2010
